Arynn Dvir

When someone is really listening

things start to change

Hi, I'm Arynn

I offer sessions for individuals and couples with the somatic approach.

In addition, I lead workshops and facilitate groups in deep processes based on the body's wisdom.

One on one

I work with an experiential approach. At the beginning, I always ask the client what his/her difficulty is, and then I explain what and how I can help.

If you are facing a difficulty you have been with for a long time, and there is a recurring experience, it is usually a defense mechanism created in childhood. These ways of coping can feel to us like a problem in itself, but it is only a strategy through which the emotional system learned how to deal with experiences that were too much for us at the time.

The approach with which I work on patterns and defense systems is the somatic approach – the wisdom of the body.

During the sessions we will use five principles of Embodiment: breath, movement, touch, sound and mindfulness.

When working with the sensations of the body you can get a glimpse into initial pains, and learn what behavioral patterns arise from them. With personal guidance we will create a common language – the somatic language. That is, combining the information we know in our head together with paying attention to the information the body gives us about what we feel. Using all this information, we will look at the experience together, and through awareness we will be able to choose new ways to cope.

Couples

A lot of people think that if there is a problem in their relationship, it means “something bad” about us as a couple, or that maybe something between us is not supposed to be, but the truth is that every couple needs support from time to time. Most of us didn't have supportive role models to learn communication, reconciliation and listening skills from. Therefore, in most cases, receiving professional support can make a world of difference.

Couples come to me many times because of difficulty in communication, and most of the time what they try to say is "fix my partner, that's where all our problems are". So how can it be that two loving people get into the same situations over and over again?

This is where the couple dynamic comes into play.

This dynamic occurs when we enter into an unconscious recreation of past wounds through the connection with our partner, and we feel that we have no control over the situation and are unable to get out of the loop. The result of this dynamic is that our relational battery is depleting every time this happens. The good news is that you are not alone, it happens to every couple.

Together we will learn how we can change the situation – instead of being against each other, we will learn to be together with each other in facing the relational dynamics. This is a very big change in perception from "you are the problem" or "I am the problem" to "we are a team facing a common difficulty". When this happens our whole experience of the situation changes, we are able to find resources that will fill our relational battery – creating togetherness.

A very essential part of the process that happens during the sessions is the personal journey within the couple's journey.

You may be surprised how special & heart opening it is to see your partner  go through deep personal processes in your company and with your support.

Many of the couples who came to me with difficulty managed to overcome it, and stayed for maintenance.

The safe place that is created stays open for you to process things with proper support and guidance, as the relationship grows.

*I have experience working with a wide range of gender definitions, and alternative structures of relationships. I am happy to work with any couple and respect any gender identification.

Private workshop for couples

This workshop is designed to give a boost of support and diversity -I like to call it a ‘vitamin D boost’ – to your relationship. The intention is to give recognition and appreciation to the beautiful parts of the relationships and focus on things that you want to strengthen.

I tailor and design each workshop to your specific relational pace and according to your needs.

The workshop is made up of a sequence of experiences, through which you will learn somatic communication tools that will help you open your heart, connect to one another, rekindle intimacy- all in a safe space. Making space for the uniqueness of your relationship which may not receive the attention it deserves in day by day life. In addition, you will learn somatic intimate communication skills to express your likes and dislikes which can also be converted into sensual-sexual practices at home.

The length of the workshop is three hours. Suitable for any couple who wants to renew their energy, to learn new intimate skills, to surprise with an extravagant date, to celebrate an occasion such as a birthday or anniversary or simply a pleasant surprise to break the routine.

This is a special experience where neither partner has to lead or wear the "driver" hat, you are free to surrender and explore together 🙂

Groups

I have been guiding groups for almost a decade. During this period I held all kinds of spaces, both in person as well as online: leading annual courses, ceremonial spaces, process groups and large groups of several hundred people.

I have experience in building content for seminars and workshops together with facilitators in Israel and abroad, mutual collaborations co-creation. In addition, I offer consultation and support to facilitators who want to renovate and develop their workshops.

I am a lead facilitator at "Nativ", an international school for embodied facilitation, in which facilitators from all over the world participate. In this training, I was certified as a senior teacher, and I hold the annual studies together with Shahar Caspi, the director of the school. Part of my role in the course is the emotional support of the group, expansion and creative director of content, and online facilitation (specifically how to lead embodied spaces online).

Watch the video about the group leader training course

נגן וידאו

The main focus of my group work is holding space through embodiment: One’s ability to take information from the body through practices of breathing, movement and sensations, and use it for one’s development which also serves the group's ability to be embodied.

Every person has self-healing abilities, the group gives us the strength to find them. This happens when we begin to understand on a deep level that we are not alone. A process that is impossible for an individual becomes possible within a group.

“When we are alone with too much, we are traumatized. When we are together with just enough, we heal”.

Buster Rådvik, MA

My way

I was born in the USA, immigrated to Israel when I was two years old with my family. English is my mother tongue and I lived bilingually. I grew up on a kibbutz, when I was 18 I volunteered for a year of service followed by the  IAF – Israeli air Force. You can say that I followed the accepted path of my upbringing, but deeper down I didn't feel like I belonged in any of these frameworks. I had to know if it was possible to live differently, and something inside pulled me to a decade of traveling and exploring the world.

By nature I am curious and I have always been drawn to explore the human soul and psyche, so that in my travels I opened up to the spiritual world. Through workshops of shamanism, conscious sexuality, movement, elemental work, embodiment and psychodrama, I discovered a path that combines the wisdom of the body with emotional processes.

My greatest healing journey began, perhaps, when I started listening to my body instead of trying to "fix” it.

As soon as I understood how to speak the language of the body, I noticed that things began to change. Boxes and labels that I put myself in and thought would always bother me, stopped being perceived as problems or defects. They became an opportunity to listen, and because of the change in perception and willingness to be with them they changed and received from me the answer I was missing.

It was a huge change for me, I received a gift that allowed me to redirect my life and I realized that I want to pass it on. That's where I started my journey in the world of therapy.

In my training

  • Group Facilitation originated from Osho-therapy (Guatemala)
  • Trauma informed trainings based on S.E principles, led by Buster Rådvik, MA (Sweden)
  • IFT International Facilitators Training of Nativ School, led by Shahar Caspi (Poland, Germany)
  • Mindfulness-based couple therapy, led by Shahar Erez, Hakomi (Israel)
  • Thai massage at Sunshine school (Thailand)

Additional education and self-taught enrichment courses:

  • Nervous system regulation breathing techniques guided by David Cates
  • Family constellation course guided by Noga Mivar
  • Holding grief rituals and collective trauma education guided by Francis Weller and Thomas Hübl
  • Conscious energetic touch – CET led by Gal Scully, the Hakumi teacher
  • Self Taught and enrichment in the fields of: Breathing techniques, Polyvagal  theory, working with the inner child and identifying hyperarousal, window of tolerance, Trauma Vortex, NVC – non-violence communication, vipassana meditation.

All the processes I offer whether they are one on one, couple therapy or group processes are based on the principles of Hakomi, S.E, mindfulness and embodiment.

More about me

I practice meditation through movement and breathing, every morning.

Nature is my strongest source of inspiration and recharge.

Not many know – I have a black belt in taekwondo, I am an international coach and judge.

More than anything, I'm a family woman –Married to Shahar and combined mother to the sweet Nahar and Rafaeli.

Testimonials

Let's talk

I work in Moshav Ofer or Givat Ada, also on Zoom.

Sessions can be in both Hebrew and English.

*I have experience working with a wide range of gender definitions, and alternative structures of relationships.
I am happy to work with any couple and respect any gender identification.

Let's talk

I work in Moshav Ofer or Givat Ada, also on Zoom.

Sessions can be in both Hebrew and English.

*I have experience working with a wide range of gender definitions, and alternative structures of relationships.
I am happy to work with any couple and respect any gender identification.

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אימבודימנט (Embodiment)

היא גישה פילוסופית לפיה לגוף ולאינטראקציה שלו עם הסביבה, יש תפקיד משמעותי באופן בו אנו חושבים, זוכרים, שופטים, מרגישים ופועלים בעולם. אמבודימנט הוא מונח המתאר את חוויה סובייקטיבית בה תחושת העצמי של אדם קשורה באופן אינטימי לגופו הפיזי. מצב זה, בו האדם נמצא במגע, קשב וחיבור לעצמו דרך גופו, באופן מורכב הכולל את היבטים פיזיים, רגשיים, מנטאלים, התנהגותיים וסביבתיים. 

אמבודימנט היא רכיב חשוב במערכת היחסים של האדם עם גופו. כאשר אדם מתייחס ומקבל את גופו כחלק בלתי נפרד ממנו, אמצעי לביטוי של העצמי, ולא כאובייקט חיצוני הנתון לשיפוט וביקורת, הדבר מוביל לדימוי גוף חיובי יותר. כאשר אנשים חווים את גופם כחלק חיובי, בריא ומקדם של עצמם, הדבר מאפשר להם לחוות הנאה מגופם, לחוש שליטה ובטחון בגופם שיאפשר להם לפעול באופן מקדם וחיובי לכיוון הגשמת המטרות והיעדים שלהם. חוויות אלו עשויות להשפיע באופן חיובי הן על הדימוי העצמי ומערכת היחסים של האדם עם עצמו, על הבריאות הנפשית, הפיזית, התפקוד בתחומי חיים נרחבים.

גישת האמבודימנט שמה דגש על החשיבות של תשומת לב לגוף – שלנו ושל אחרים, למרחב בו הגוף שלנו נוכח, תופס מקום, נע ופועל, לתחושות השונות בגוף, ליציבה, נשימה, לתקשורת בין הגוף שלנו ובין גופים אחרים בסביבתנו. על פי גישה זו, נוכחות וחיבור לגוף מביאים עמם יתרונות רבים, ביניהם האפשרות של אדם להרגיש מחובר ומודע למצב הפנימי בוא הוא נמצא, להרגיש נוחות בתוך הגוף, אשר הופך לבית מוגן ומוכר, לפעול מתוך בחירה ושליטה ולא מתוך תגובתיות לא מודעת, ולחוות הנאה וסיפוק מכל חוויה בה אנו נוכחים, ברמה הפיזית והנפשית, באופן מלא.  

ישנן דרכים רבות ושונות לפיתוח ומימוש של אמבודימנט בחיי היום יום.